Learn to Love

“It isn’t enough for your heart to break because everybody’s heart is broken now.”—Allen Ginsberg I’m dedicating myself to a new tradition of reflecting and writing in honor of Martin Luther King Jr. Day each year. I’m also committed to attending community events and have built this day in as a paid holiday at my…

“Work is love made visible.”—Kahlil Gibran Workplace Cultures of Love Thrive Together The most successful, lasting and fulfilling organizational cultures invite people to be full expressions of themselves, which radiates out from individual self love. The world has plenty of ways to develop thought leaders. We’re here to empower heart leaders to integrate challenge and…

Four years ago today I won a 10-week gym challenge and concluded the first leg of a transformational journey. Today was my 600th visit to Farrell’s in Chicago, which offers first rate kickboxing, strength training and most importantly community. You can read about the first three years of my wellness journey here. Now I’d like…

I recently spoke on a panel for a women’s networking group. The subject was “Bridging the Gender Gap at Work” and the first question was about whether or not men and women are wired differently. I believe that most of the behavioral differences we see from all people are much more a matter of conditioning…

Love is the courage to stand for truth in a culture built on fearLove shows us the common ground between disparate viewsLove keeps us centered in our hearts so we don’t resort to manipulationLove invites a full unique expression of each personLove knows that more perspectives are always better than fewer perspectivesLove helps you stay…

Martin Luther King Jr. Day is a notable checkpoint of growth for me. It serves as a beacon for so many things I’ve devoted myself to learning around bias, racism, privilege, fear and what it truly takes for us to build a world where each person experiences dignity and agency. I used to think of…

Make Time for Self Love The most common symptom of the modern world that I encounter when I’m coaching productive conscious leaders is that there just isn’t enough time for everything, especially themselves. This lack of focus on self love can deteriorate your fulfillment in life and the energy you have to share your gifts…

“Every known human society rests firmly on the learned nurturing behavior of men.” —Margaret Mead   This is the quote my father used to begin his 2010 essay, “Fathering For Freedom,” included in the book, Fatherhood: Philosophy for Everyone. It has stuck with me ever since. With the rightful explosion of millions of #metoo voices…

The key to meditation is to maintain your compassionate curiosity through your distractions. Self-judgment can come in the form of worrying that you are not “good” at quieting your mind when stray thoughts come in. Meditation isn’t about forcing your mind to be quiet, it’s about developing the muscle of attention by witnessing those thoughts…

UPDATE: Read the 4-year reflection when I reached 600 trips to the gym. #AbsBy40 I’ll turn 40 this July. My goal is to be in the best shape of my life, inside and out. Even more important than my overall wellness as a snapshot is my attitude to keep it going for life. This means…